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This week and next I want to tackle the topic of women’s sexual attraction. Today we’ll look at it from a man’s perspective and next week from the woman’s.
I’ve been mulling this over in my head since a husband emailed me and told me his wife is never interested in sex anymore. She told him it must be because she is not attracted to him anymore.
How does that happen? Is this woman really not attracted to her husband anymore?
How can this guy get his wife to be attracted to him again?
When things go wrong in the bedroom it’s usually because things are wrong somewhere else in the relationship. Somewhere, a while before this loss of attraction, something else went wrong.
Because, for a woman, sex is more about her mind and emotions than about her body.
Have you ever seen a beautiful woman on the arm of an unattractive man and you wonder how he got her? That’s because looks are not the only thing that counts to a woman.
If an ugly man treats his woman right she will open her heart to him.
But when a man (even a good-looking one) fails to meet a woman’s heart needs she will eventually lose her attraction to him.
Her body will follow her heart.
A wife’s attraction to her husband is dependent on many things – hormones, stress, emotional connection, mental distraction, unmet needs, and sooooo on!
So, to make things easier, let’s assume that this woman’s problem is not hormonal or that there is something physically wrong with her. Let’s assume this is an emotional/relational problem.
What can her husband do to get her attracted to him again?
Attraction, though lost, is something that can be rekindled if a woman is treated right. Pursue her heart, guys.
Pursue her heart and her body will follow.
Next week we’ll look at how women can help themselves to be more interested in sex.
Did I miss anything in this list? Let me know in the comments.