Emotional Health

Toxic relationships, self-care, personal growth, boundaries, emotional health.

Common Signs of Domestic Abuse

Does your intimate partner do hurtful things, say sorry, and promise to never do it again, until the next time it happens? Are you afraid of your spouse? Are you scared to say what you think, bring up certain topics, or even say no to sex? Does your relationship leave you feeling scared, isolated, confused, betrayed, or like you never know what’s coming next.   Do you feel like you’re going crazy, second guessing yourself all the time, or that you are the one to blame for the conflict in your relationship? If you feel any of these…

18 Signs of a Toxic Relationship

No one purposely takes poison – even in small amounts. We know it’s stupid. But we often stay stuck in toxic relationships that make us mentally and emotionally sick and sometimes even destroy us. Toxic relationships can happen anywhere relationships occur – with a child or parent, in dating or marriage, with a friend or in a work environment, and yes, even in church. Recognising a toxic relationship can be difficult because we may be so used to mistreatment that it feels normal. The toxic person can make us feel like we are the problem. And naming the toxicity can…

Focus on Yourself Series: Being True to Yourself

A bunch of words and ideas come to mind when I think about being true to yourself: Integrity, honesty (with yourself and others), principle, authenticity (I really like that word!), acting on the beliefs and values you hold, doing what is right in spite of the consequences, backbone – yeah!   I think I like these words because I used to be a doormat. A walkover with no identity of my own. I allowed others to think for me and make decisions for me. It was Shakespeare that said, “To thine own self be true.” That’s a great thought, but…

Focus on Yourself Series: Developing Yourself

A few months ago a friend and I had a conversation about how to overcome distraction and stay focused on a task. She really wanted to start doing better at it. Do you have things you’d like to change about yourself, things you’d like to learn, and areas you need to grow in? If you do, that’s a good thing because the Bible encourages growth.   2 Peter 1:5-8 makes God’s intention for us clear: grow so you can be fruitful.   “And beside this, giving all diligence, add to your faith virtue; and…

Focus on Yourself Series: Accepting Yourself

Do you often have feelings of just not being good enough when you’re with other people? Do other people’s accomplishments make you feel “less than”? Are you at peace with yourself, with who you are – your talents, abilities, and limitations? Have you accepted yourself? What is self-acceptance? Self-acceptance does not equal arrogance or conceit. It means being comfortable with who you are, knowing what your strengths and weaknesses are and being Okay with them. Accepting yourself doesn’t mean you don’t have room to grow and change in some areas. It means liking the…

10 Lies about Porn You Should not Believe

Talking about pornography is unpleasant, but we have to because it’s everywhere. Since the Coronavirus hit the world with its lockdown regulations, porn sites have been generous and offered free porn. Naturally, they’ve reported an upsurge in traffic. People are home and feeling bored, frustrated, anxious, or lonely, and porn offers “relief”. Porn sites would have you believe that what they offer is – if not good for you – not bad. How bad is porn? What’s the big deal about it? The justifications for it are many, and today we’re looking at common lies people believe about…

Why You Should Focus on Small, Daily Habits Instead of Big Goals

We all have at least one big goal in life – it may be making lots of money, buying a house, getting married, traveling overseas, becoming a famous YouTuber, raising great kids, or having the best marriage. While it’s great to have goals, we often don’t achieve them. Why is that? Because we focus on the goal instead of what will get us to the goal. We forget about the small, daily actions that move us toward buying the house, getting married, or raising great kids. We underrate small things because, well, they’re small, and they don’t…

Have You Edited Your Soul?

Lately, I’ve taken a break from life, only doing the bare essentials. Less time on social media, more time outside, or lying on the couch thinking. Why have I done this? To think about what’s going on deep inside of me. To audit my soul. As I’ve been auditing my soul – taking stock, seeing what’s really going on inside of me –  I’ve realised that for a lot of my life I’ve edited my soul – cut out pieces of it that are important because life delivered the message that they don’t matter…

Two Simple Things to Include in your Morning Routine that Will Boost Your Productivity for the Whole Day

 Everyone has a morning routine. The question is, is yours helping you get a good start or is it hijacking your day? In the words of Tim Ferris, “If you win the morning, you win the day.” A good morning routine will increase your energy, mood, performance and productivity, giving you a sense of control over your life.    Because life is so demanding, it’s tempting to forgo the seemingly unimportant stuff, and get going with the “real” stuff – like work and all that the day throws at you.   But is that really productive? Apparently not…