Parenting

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How to Deal with a Rebellious Teenager

So your child is now a teenager and you’re noticing some rebellion. They tend to back chat you, spend more time alone, are embarrassed by you, argue more with you and generally resist your authority. What happened to your pleasant pre-adolescent? How can you navigate these turbulent teen years? How do you deal with a rebellious teenager? What makes a teenager rebellious? It’s a biblical principle that we reap what we sow. And the teen years are the reaping years. Generally speaking, teenage rebellion is a reaction to bad parenting. Ouch. I know that hurts. It’s…

How to do a Parenting Audit

Do you ever stop to think about how you are doing as a parent? How would you rate your parenting skills? One of Richard’s most common sayings is, “Apply your mind”. Are you “applying your mind” to your parenting, or are you drifting along without much thought? Becoming a better parent takes being intentional. Applying your mind. One way of doing this is to conduct a parenting audit. To evaluate what’s working and what’s not, and how you can improve.   What is a parenting audit? A parenting audit is an intentional review of all the areas…

14 Tips for Becoming a Better Parent

Do you wish you were a better parent? Have you made mistakes you wish you could undo? Do you struggle with impatience, sometimes yell at your kids, and wish they would just listen to you? It’s no light thing to raise a child, and the irony of it all is that you begin without knowing how and by the time your kids are grown, you’ve finally learnt how to parent, but by then it’s too late because they’re grown up! But wait! There’s good news! No matter what your track record looks like, you can…

How to get your Kids to Listen in 3 Easy Steps

One question we get asked frequently is, How do I get my kids to listen? The Bible is clear that children should obey their parents, “Children, obey your parents in the Lord: for this is right.” Ephesians 6:1 (KJV) But how does that happen? Do children naturally obey their parents because the Bible says they should? Umm, we all know that doesn’t happen. So whose job is it to ensure that children are obedient? The parents’, of course. So, the next logical question is, If kids aren’t obedient, whose fault is that? Yup, the parent’s. So…

When Parents Don’t See Eye to Eye (how to get unity)

Parenting brings a whole new range of challenges to a marriage that weren’t there before kids came along, and you won’t always see eye to eye. Each parent has well established beliefs about how children should behave, how they should be treated, and what it means to be a good parent. A lot of this is informed by your own history – the example you had from your own parents. Your parenting is also influenced by your belief system, personality, and problem solving approach. So here you have two very different people needing to work together as a…

How to Teach Kids to Apologise Well

“Say sorry!” If you’re a parent, you’ve said those words. And maybe your child mumbled “sorry” and you left it at that. But is a mumbled apology, while staring at the ground, good enough? Let’s face it, apologising is not easy. It’s awkward, humbling, and downright hard sometimes. But just because it’s hard doesn’t mean kids can’t learn to apologise well. It’s a life skill that will serve them well. So, how can you help your kids learn to apologise well? Identify the offense Some kids say sorry just to get off…

5 Things to do when your Kids say they’re Bored

“I’m bored. There’s nothing to do.” Don’t you just hate those words? They mean you have to come up with something for your kids to do – and you’re already busy and frazzled! What causes boredom? Generally, boredom is considered to be caused by not enough activity. We’ve heard the saying, “An idle mind is the devil’s workshop”, and that’s true. We should be keeping our kids occupied with useful things. But, It’s not good for your kids to be so busy that they never have opportunity to feel bored. Most kids today…

How to Help Kids Cope with Grief & Loss

Helping a child process grief and loss can be tough because they aren’t always able to express their thoughts and feelings verbally.  A child’s grief may seem to come and go – one minute they’ll be crying, the next they’ll be playing. Some kids will be expressive of their feelings, others not. Some kids will re-experience the intensity of the loss as they grow up, especially during certain milestones in life such as starting school, going on a first date, graduating from college or getting married. How can you help your child process their grief…

3 Ways to Prepare your Kids for Tough Times Ahead

Daniel 12:1 predicts a “time of trouble, such as never was since there was a nation” that will take place just before the second coming of Jesus. Have you ever worried about how your kids will face that time? Will they be strong enough – physically, emotionally, and spiritually? These are the things that keep parents awake at night, the things that create fear in our hearts. These feelings are real, but while we can’t change prophecy or avoid what’s coming on the world, we can do all in our power to prepare for that time. If preparation…