I recently had the joy of looking after a friend’s two boys for a day. They helped me throw out the compost and cover it up with a spade. I took my small spade seeing that they are so small. They each took a turn, and boy, was I impressed. These boys are 3 and 6 and handled the spade like pro’s! They told me, “We use a bigger spade than this at home.”
The Bible says, “It is good for a man that he bear the yoke in his youth…” Lamentations 3:27
Learning a good work ethic when young is one of the best things you can do for your kids (or for yourself, if you are still young).
Why is work important for kids?
“Learning how to work step by step through a chore helps children apply the same principles in their own work and play… Learning to keep things organized results from having experienced things being organized. When a child participates physically, mentally and emotionally, in the organization of things within the home, his capability to do so in school and in other activities will be immeasurably increased.” [i]
“Dealing with ‘external tasks’ helps children to organize their ‘internal processes.’ Even growth in logical thinking is aided by learning the ‘logic’ of ordinary household procedures such as putting toys away or cleaning one’s room. Furthermore, being required to do chores helps children learn to deal with frustration and ambiguity. Children who do chores regularly become better problem solvers.” [ii]
Here are some other benefits of work:
“Blend the physical labour with the mental, and the powers of the mind will develop far better.” [iii]
“Work is good for children; they are happier to be usefully employed a large share of the time; their innocent amusements are enjoyed with a keener zest after the successful completion of their tasks. Labour strengthens both the muscles and the mind.” [iv]
When should you start teaching your children to work?
The sooner the better. As soon as they can walk, they can pick up toys, dust chair or table legs, “sweep” with a kiddies broom.
“As early in life as possible they (children) should be trained to share the burdens of the home.” [v]
Our boys were barely as tall as the mower when they began mowing lawns.
How should you teach your children to work?
Give them chores appropriate for their age and teach a good work ethic – to work quickly and neatly.
“Teach your children to be useful, to bear burdens according to their years; then the habit of labouring will become second nature to them, and useful work will never seem like drudgery.” [vi]
Daily chores like setting the table, washing dishes, or sweeping can be assigned for a week at a time to avoid confusion about whose turn it is to do what.
It helps create good habits if your child does a chore every day even if it is not necessary. I divided up the bathroom chores to be done by the same child for a week at a time. One cleaned the toilet, one cleaned the bath, the third cleaned the sink and mirror. (That worked well for me because I had three kids).
Weekly chores like dusting, vacuuming, mowing, or laundry can be assigned on the day.
Chore charts are useful as your children get a little older. If they can’t read yet, then draw pictures for each chore.
Follow these three steps for teaching chores:
Tips for teaching your children how to work:
Work is honourable and not degrading if done with the right attitude.
Help your kids learn the value of hard work by working hard.
[i] How to Teach Responsibility, Harris Clemes, Ph.D, Reynold Bean, E.M
[iii] Child Guidance, 126 Ellen G White
[iv] Adventist Home, 286, Ellen G White
[v] Child Guidance, 119,
[vi] Child Guidance, 122