Do you struggle to tell the difference between flirting and friendliness? How do you tell if someone is flirting or just being nice?
Not being able to recognise the difference often leads to being hurt because you thought the person really liked you and had a genuine interest in you.
Flirting happens to both single and married people and it can be hard to tell the difference because they’re so close.
It can also be difficult to know how to be friendly without flirting. I’ve seen naturally friendly girls mistaken as flirts, and I’ve also seen girls acting awkward and almost rude around guys for fear of appearing flirty.
So how do we figure this out?
A friendly person sees the opposite sex as friends and respects their feelings. A flirt sees the opposite sex as “potential” and uses them to boost their own self-worth with no regard for their feelings.
A friendly person uses their words in a God-honouring way, for healthy, interesting conversation. A flirt uses their words to stroke ego, get attention, and flatter.
A friendly person respects personal space and does not cross the boundaries of friendship by touching unnecessarily. A flirt moves into personal space and uses touch to stir feelings.
Which is it?
Let’s get a bit more specific about what flirting and friendliness look like.
While it can be tricky to tell the difference between flirting and friendliness, if you pay attention to a person’s words and body language you should be able to figure out if they are genuine or not.
Be wise, hold yourself in reserve, and observe, observe, observe.
Did this help to clarify the difference between flirting and friendliness? What can you add to this list? What’s your experience been with a flirt? Share in the comments and let’s talk!